Who Hurt You Baby Girl?
I know we have all come across the phrase “who hurt you?’’ from a man as a clap back when women call men out on their misogyny. To be honest, this isn’t quite the clap back that these men think it is. It is in fact, a self drag and one that shows that men are aware, they just don’t care.
The first time I came across the phrase was while dragging a misogynistic rape apologist on twitter per usual. He called me an e-feminist and asked ‘who hurt you baby girl?’ I was angry at first so I asked why he’d assumed I must have been hurt to be able to speak up on these issues that affect women. True. One shouldn’t have to experience men to be able to speak up but also true that I have been hurt. All of us women have been hurt and it’s not something to be ashamed of, neither is it our fault that men. I have been hurt by misogynistic pricks who refuse to acknowledge their privilege asking me who hurt me because I dare be outraged by the oppression. I have been hurt by men because I live my life in fear of being raped and murdered everyday. I have been hurt by men because all my life, I have been taught all the ways I am to protect myself from men. From how to dress, how to speak, where to go, what time to go and still get assaulted. I have been hurt by men’s entitlement to my body. I have been hurt by the patriarchy whose biggest benefactor and upholder is men. Men sexually harass me in the market, at work, at home, in church, anywhere. Men who are strangers, family, friends, romantic partners. All kinds of men.
According to the United Nations Office on Drugs and Crime(UNODC), an average of 137 women are killed daily globally. In this new data, they also say that the home is the most likely place for a woman to be killed. Every woman I know or have come across all have a sexual abuse story. All women and I did not stutter, have been hurt by men and all in different ways. So the next time a man on the internet or real life asks me ‘‘who hurt you?’’ as some of form of silly come back for my valid anger and hate towards men, I would read a m*therf*cker to filth and rightly so.
